A Rebuttal, of Sorts
Posted by hubman38 on August 30, 2009
Many of you have probably read my wife’s post yesterday about our date on Friday night. If not, click here and read it first. Sometimes we have great dates and the chemistry is there all around, other times that is definitely not the case. In no way am I questioning Veronica’s sense that the chemistry wasn’t there between her and Darryl, because I agree with her.
I’ll freely admit that Barbie is probably the single hottest woman I’ve ever had sex with and would fuck her again in a heartbeat. So yes, while I’m seriously disappointed that Veronica and Darryl didn’t have good chemistry, I won’t do a thing to pressure her to see them again.
There have been times where she and I have written a post together and I think that this date provided the perfect opportunity to do so, considering our widely disparate experiences that evening. Yesterday I drove to NY and back to retrieve Darling Boy from his week at grandpa’s house and she wrote and published her post while I was gone. While I’m disappointed that we didn’t have the opportunity to co-author a post about the evening, I’m more disappointed in how she portrayed numerous aspects of the evening, casting Darryl and Barbie in an unnecessarily harsh light. The particulars of what I disagree with don’t matter. Veronica and I have talked, and it’s all good.
We had a mixed experience with a couple and won’t be seeing them again.
Moving on…
Just Me... said
They can’t all be prefect.. There are situations that are great for one and the exact same situation sucks for the other.. That’s life..
Like you said, moving on..
Just Me... said
Ooops.. Still getting used to the new keyboard..
“perfect”
Emmy said
The rule you have both talked about in the past comes to mind here form me:”no one takes it for the team”. Like you said, sometimes the chemistry is there for both of you while other times it is not. Regardless of the details, this was clearly one where it was not. It doesn’t surprise me, therefore that there is no disagreement about the “moving on” part.
mnwhr5 said
It’s good that even with the two different experiences you guys can quickly come to an agreement to leave them alone. I also like it when you guys co-author posts.
Playfully Yours said
I love it when you co-post. Both your points of view are important and also gives insight to the way each of you saw the evening/date.
So curious to know if you would fuck her again because she was hot or because she was good? There is a definite difference.
hubman38 said
She was hot AND good!
Playfully Yours said
awesome…
PDXsubcuck said
Just was over at your wife’s blog and posted a response there. Delighted that you are together and a team. One hates in some ways to give up something so hot and fun as Barbie but it is more important to be a team.
We once met a couple that turned out to be not quite what they had said…No, attractive and intelligent and all that but…
She played around, had a long term lover that she would visit and spend a week with. While she said that they were interested in swinging it was obvious that she had no interest in me, no interest in sex with any other persons that her present lover and her husband and HATED as in CRAZY HATE (Gun and knife crazy!) the idea of her husband having sex with anyone else than her…and she wasn’t all that hot about him having sex with her. She went ballistic after my wife and her hubby had a cup of coffee since my wife was in the part of the city he worked. What a time. One of the things that caused us to drift from swinging.
While on some levels I didn’t mind Brandi seeing him without me seeing his wife or even being there with them the total package was way too crazy for both of us. Very much a learning experience.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts on the evening with us.
ZenMom said
It’s interesting when two people can come away from, basically, the “same” experience, with totally different perspectives. But kudos to you for thinking like a team. I’m sorry things didn’t work out better for you all.
ZenMom said
Oh, an, for the record, I like the posts you write together, too.
Vixen said
It is interesting the two different perspectives and how differently each of you came away from the experience. I do think there are quite a few occasions that a woman comes away from an encounter (whether sexual or not) and has ‘noticed’ more than her s/o has. I think it’s a female/male thing.
Sorry it didn’t’ work out but glad you two could come to an agreement and move on.
Britni TheVadgeWig said
I see the difference coming from the way you, as a man, view the experience and Veronica, as a woman, views the experience.
You were interested in the fact that the wife was hot and good in bed. For you, her personality didn’t really play a role in that. If she really was anywhere near as quiet and bland as Veronica described her as, there’s no way her personality could have been what made you love fucking her.
Beyond the small and dick and inability to keep an erection, Veronica already wasn’t attracted to Darryl. If she had found him to be a great guy, some of the physical might have been overlooked, or wouldn’t even have mattered because it was about *him* and not his dick. She also didn’t love Barbie’s personality, and found her to be not “real” enough looking for her. Again, this isn’t something that guys usually care about.
I see the different experiences coming more from that angle than over the fact that neither of you really liked the couple and could agree upon that.
MG said
Geez, so you hooked up with people Wednesday AND Friday? Damn, I am so jealous! lol. Too bad this one didn’t work out so well.
Ben said
You have noted several times that one of the big issues in the lifestyle occurs when one of you has great sex and the other does not (Ned and Ann; Darryl and Barbie; perhaps others). It seems a lot to expect that both of you would regularly find the member of the other could satisfying at the same time. Probability would seem to be against it, pure and simple.
Wouldn’t it be easier to have an open relationship where you each agree that the other can have sex with other people? Or is there something even more special to (i) the two of you having sex with another couple and/or (ii) having sex with one part of the other couple at the same time as your partner is having sex with the other member of the couple? Just curious.
Nyssa Rivinelli said
Sometime its not always easy to move on from a relationship even if its what you really want to try and do. I hope you are able to do this soon. Nyssa
Southern Vixen said
Ok…moving on.