I Should Have Griped Sooner

On Sunday I wrote about feeling a little restless in the lifestyle, and the desire to find another couple to play with.

No joke, within 36 hrs of publishing that post, 5 different couples contacted us.  Even more surprising is that 3 of them come to us via swinglifestyle, which has been dormant for us for several months.  Let’s consider our prospects together, shall we?

First, there is the young couple from Rhode Island.  And by young, I mean really young!  Like he’s 23 and she’s 22 kinda young.  Plus, they’re both smokers.  So they get a polite rejection.

Then there is the hot hot hot couple.  From 60+ miles away in New Hampshire   Maybe if we didn’t have kids that cost us $15/hr for a sitter we’d consider them, but it’s just not practical.  Which is exactly what I tell them- they’re hot and we’d like to meet, but they’re too far away.

Next, a couple from reasonably close by.  But we’re not just seeing a connection, so we polite reject them.

Oh, this next one is fun, courtesy of Swappernet.  Before I tell you about their message to us, consider this snippet from our profile:

Keep in mind that we have small children and while we have several dependable sitters, sometimes we’re not as free to get out as we would like.

After reading that, what do you think of this message, sent at 4:30PM Sunday?:

Hey guys care to jion us for a night cap tonight ??

Seriously?  Obviously they haven’t even bothered to read our profile.  Then I look at their profile, because I’m curious, and I recognize them, realizing that they’ve sent us the same message before, on Swinglifestyle!  Here is that earlier message, from 3 months ago:

Always looking for late eve night caps ourselves .. if your ever interested !! we can host !! Licks

Apparently, they must think their tactic works, since they’re still using it.  In both cases we deleted their messages without replying.  If they can’t at least read our profile and acknowledge the limitations our kids place on our adult playtime, we won’t give them the courtesy of a reply.  And now that I think about it, did they really think we’d accept an offer to show up at their house without ever talking or meeting first?  Pretty presumptuous, if you ask me.

And then I kid you not, a mere 45 minutes later it happens again:

how was your weekend, we don’t want ours to end…can you guys get out for a drink?

But this time it’s different.  This is a couple that we’ve exchanged several messages with several weeks ago.  We thought there might be a good connection with them and we offered up our phone numbers on more than one occasion.  But they never called, so we though they might have changed their mind.  Apparently not!

I reply, thanking them for the offer, but remind them that we have 2 young kids and getting out on the spur-of-the-moment isn’t practical.  She replies:

I know its hard 4 u guys…but i thought we would try;) will give u a call shortly if its a good time??

She and Veronica ended up having a nice chat on Sunday evening.

And we have a dinner date with them on Thursday

Happy Hump Day!